Terry Tucker, among many things, is an author, motivational speaker, former police officer, former SWAT hostage negotiator, and a cancer warrior. Over the course of his life, Terry has worked and succeeded in many areas of life and across multiple vocations. Terry played Division I NCAA college basketball, worked in the corporate world (in marketing, administration, and customer service), became a Cincinnati police officer at the age of 37, worked as a security consultant, basketball coach, and recently as a motivational speaker after having been diagnosed and treated for cancer for the past 9 years.
In this episode, Terry and I discuss how and why he wrote the book, what it was like for him to become a police officer and SWAT hostage negotiator at the age of 37, how he dealt with his brutal cancer treatment, and what it all means for him now.
Throughout his professional life, Terry has found himself having to relearn and remaster new skills and attitudes for dealing with the unique demands and challenges of each career. Throughout all of this, though, Terry has found that excellence in any field of endeavour is possible if one has the right mindset, support system, and willingness to learn. From this, he has recently written a book called Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life where he outlines his findings to help people achieve greatness in their lives.
In many ways, I believe I am just like any of the billions of people existing on this planet.
I have reinvented myself frequently over my professional career. After I graduated from college at The Citadel (where I played NCAA Division I basketball), I was employed in the Marketing Department at the corporate headquarters of Wendy’s International in Dublin, Ohio. From there, I worked in hospital administration for Riverside Methodist Hospital in Columbus, Ohio. After getting married and moving to California for my wife’s job, I became the Customer Service Manager for an academic publishing company in Santa Barbara. After our daughter was born and we moved to Cincinnati, Ohio, I became a police officer with the Cincinnati Police Department, where I was a SWAT Hostage Negotiator. Following a family relocation to Texas, I started a school security consulting business and coached high school girls basketball in Houston. Each time I took on a new job, I had to develop new skills and faced different challenges. There was always a significant learning curve with every new position.
But my greatest challenge began in early 2012 when I was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer called Acral Lentiginous Melanoma, which presented on the bottom of my foot. By the time the melanoma was detected, it had metastasized to a lymph node in my groin. Because my cancer is so rare (only about 6,500 people are diagnosed with this form of malignancy in the U.S. each year), I was treated at the world-renowned MD Anderson Cancer Center. I had two surgeries to remove the tumors, and after I healed, I was put on a weekly injection of the drug, Interferon, to help keep the disease from coming back.
I took those weekly injections for four years and seven months before the Interferon became so toxic to my body that I ended up in the Intensive Care Unit with a fever of 108 degrees. Fortunately, expert medical care saved my life.
The Interferon gave me severe flu-like symptoms for two to three days after each injection. I lost fifty pounds during my therapy, was constantly nauseous, fatigued, and chilled, my ability to taste food significantly diminished, and my body constantly ached. This misery went on for over 1,660 days!
One thing I learned during all my pain and suffering is that you have two choices. You can succumb to the debilitating discomfort and misery, or you can learn to embrace it and use it to make you a stronger and better human being. I chose the latter.
There were times I felt so poorly and was in so much agony that I prayed to die. Each day was a struggle to use my mind to override my body’s apathy and distress.
I realize pain and discomfort can beat you to your knees and keep you there if you let it. But I also came to appreciate that I could use my hurting and anguish to make me stronger and more resolute.
I was no better at dealing with pain and discomfort than the next person. But every day, I found a way to survive, with the knowledge that I would need to do it again the following morning.
I recently wrote a book, entitled Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life, to help people find and live their uncommon and extraordinary life. The ten principles outlined in the book will provide the bedrock necessary to form the foundation of unshakable beliefs and dedicated behaviors to reinforce your attitude, no matter how much pain you must endure or how many obstacles you must overcome. My hope is that people who read the book will lead a life of significance, as well as a life of success.
I understand what it is like to fight for your life and one thing I’ve learned is that as long as you don’t quit, you can never be defeated.
In this episode, Tyler and I discuss how people approach public speaking, the difficulties we contend with, and how to become confident in yourself and your speaking. We talk about how Tyler coaches people into learning to speak with confidence, communicate effectively with other people, and how to win over an audience. We also discuss how our perceptions and expectations of ourselves and others contribute to how we feel about ourselves. Whether it’s going in expecting the worst or going in and expecting the best, your perception can begin to shape your reality. Being present and working in the moment also has a huge role to play in connecting with an audience – being able to take in and work with your audience’s energy is also a hugely important process. Finally, we get into how stories are made and told in different ways for different purposes – and how one should go about learning to tell their stories for maximum effect.
Sean “Tyler” Foley
Sean Tyler Foley is an accomplished film and stage performer and has been acting in film and television since he was 6 years old after his father passed away suddenly in a motor vehicle accident. With his distinct and direct style, Tyler is emerging as one of North America’s sought-after leaders in the field of public speaking for personal and professional development.
Tyler has appeared in productions including Freddy Vs Jason, Door to Door, Carrie, and the musical Ragtime. Tyler is passionate about helping others confidently take the stage and impact an audience with their stories. He is currently the Managing Director of Total Buy In and author of the #1 best-selling book The Power to Speak Naked.
Tyler is a father, husband, son, and performer, in that order. Some days he feels like he has dabbled in every industry on the planet, from oil and gas, to aviation, to film and television, but that diverse experience is what has made him so versatile!
Regardless of the industry or the titles he has held, what they all had in common was promoting and encouraging people to be heard and understood. The skills and resources he has garnered along the way have enabled him to become an entertaining professional speaker and a knowledgeable trainer, who inspires others to reach for their dreams.
Erin Mac is a mindset facilitator helping entrepreneurs find clarity, purpose and joy NOW, on the way to abundance. Affectionately known as the “Joy Slinger”, Erin teaches people how to create impenetrable joy in their lives. So often so many of us struggle with finding peace and joy in our lives. We tend to be at the mercy of thoughts and emotions – both our own and those of people around us. Our interactions in, and perceptions of, life are limited and painful when we react to the world rather than respond. To react is to fight against what is because reality does not conform to our expectations of how we think things should be. In contrast, to respond to life is to live in the present moment, to accept the thoughts and actions of ourselves and others without judgement, and to respond to the situation calmly and effectively.
To live a life of impenetrable joy is to have peace of mind, meaningful relationships, a good work/life balance and to find fulfillment and purpose in everything we do. It is possible for anyone to discover what is most meaningful in life, to effectively deal with depression, stress, and anxiety, to be inspired, and to live a life of peace and joy.
Erin Mac is a mindset facilitator helping entrepreneurs find clarity, purpose and joy NOW, on the way to abundance.
“I was then invited to become a Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer, studying under Mike Dooley, to teach what he teaches, and that is just what I did. While getting certified, it became clear to me that it is my life’s purpose to help business people find joy, purpose, and meaning in their lives. I have received both Certifications that are offered under the Infinite Possibilities training and have conducted these workshops for two years.”
Mike Solitro is a consultative leader who has played multiple key roles in countless real estate transactions. He is a Real Estate Attorney, an Associate Broker, and the Founder of AccomplishedRE. In this episode, Mike and I discuss how companies and teams look to manage change properly. We also discuss how large companies with multiple divisions often have less-than-ideal communication between various teams and departments which can lead to excessive time and energy spent working to fulfil their own mandates while ignoring the needs of other teams. Creating balance for individuals and companies is a delicate and nuanced practice, and Mike is an expert at helping people create balance for themselves and their companies.
Mike’s company, Accomplished RE, has 5 core values Collaboration, Accountability, Drive, Excellence, and Trust. These values are the core of the company’s coaching mandate – to help individuals and companies advance their professional lives.
Dawna Campbell is a professional speaker, international healer, and best seller author, sharing her techniques. In this episode, Dawna and I discuss how our thoughts and emotions influence and create the life we experience. Dawna shares her personal story of discovering how powerful thoughts are, and how we can utilize thoughts to create better lives for ourselves – a life of happiness, prosperity, and love. Our relationship with our thoughts plays a major role in determining how we perceive various situations in our lives. For example, the way we have learned to think about money and finances sets us up to create that version of reality. If we want to change how our reality is, we must become aware of our conditioned thoughts and emotions about the situation. Then we can begin to heal ourselves and create new realities.
Known as the Mind Whisperer, Dawna combines her past knowledge, wisdom, and experience to assist you in creating and restoring a life of happiness, prosperity, and love. Dawna has over 25 years combined years of professional experience. As a former Financial Advisor, her book, Financially Fit, is a #1 Amazon International Best Seller bringing together the world of money and the energy body, and the souls essence. She is a professional speaker sharing her techniques during interactive workshops and maintains an international private practice. Dawna has shared the stage with Lisa Nichols, Dr. Joe Vitale, Sharon Lechter, and Kevin Harrington. Her personal Heart Centered Healing philosophy is to create a world that is a better place for all to live.
“We are vibrational beings, producing an energy field of waves. These wave patterns are encoded with our life experiences and emotions through our brain wave patterns. These wave patterns send out signals to the universe, and return to us, the very thoughts, feelings, and emotions that we are having. As a Mind Whisperer®, I start with your conscious thought, and guide you to find the thought behind the thought, behind the thought…. back to the original thought through your emotions, and change the feeling associated with the thought to create a different experience.
Thought Form Energy Healing® is a life changing method that brings about instantaneous change by releasing the emotional heavy thought forms that were recorded in the subconscious and blocked in the body, and replace the thought form with a new emotional experience to a life of happiness, prosperity, and love for you.
Here are some examples of how Thought Form Energy Healing® might assist you:
– Health: Increasing your overall wellness, dis-creating sickness and illness
– Wealth: Creating an abundant mindset, manifesting, and increasing prosperity
– Relationships: Attracting more love in your life, soulmates, family, community
– Spiritual: Aligning with your life purpose, path, and direction in life
– Emotional: Releasing trauma and abuse, self-worth, knowing that you matter”
Eleanor Tweddell is a coach, mentor, consultant, creator and entrepreneur focused on reinvention. As the age-old wisdom declares: when one door closes, a world of possibility awaits. Eleanor teaches people how to embrace and navigate major changes in life – whether it’s losing your job, significant financial changes, or difficult relationships. She focuses on providing a warm, non-judgmental space for people to work through their challenges, and re-align themselves with what they truly want, and what life has to offer. After going through several major challenges in her life, Eleanor discovered that although big changes are often very difficult, unpleasant, and stressful, they also present an amazing opportunity for creation of something new. Whether its reviving an old passion project, working on a dream, or simply getting out of negative situations, change allows for the possibility of renewed hope.
Sometimes we just need a safe space to unravel, ramble, be free, without judgment. So that we can recharge, reset and move forward with gusto!
Change is a scary thing. It can come with thoughts and feelings of uncertainty, pain, and a sense of loss. However, just like the caterpillar goes through a major transformation to metamorphose into a butterfly, so too do we experience major transformations of our existence as we know it. The crucial point, however, is that change can be amazing. Change has the potential to create a new amazing life – a life of freedom, fulfillment, and joy. We need only allow ourselves to go through the changes (with all the ups and downs) to truly see how amazing the change is. To navigate change successfully, we must treat ourselves nonjudgmentally, with kindness and love.
Eleanor Tweddell is a coach, mentor, consultant, creator and entrepreneur focused on reinvention.
Why Losing Your Job Could Be The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You
“Four years ago I got made redundant. It wasn’t the best time of my life. But I wondered if it was time to step away from corporate life and explore the ‘outside’ world. I started writing a blog. I started an online retail store. I joined up to lots of courses and programmes. I had no idea what I was doing! But I got curious, stayed open to new ideas and took opportunities that came along. The blog became a community, which became a business, which became a book, the book is here. This book will take you through the shock of redundancy, the feeling of being stuck, slowing down to get clarity, becoming unstuck and thriving in your next chapter, your next door. It shares my story, other people’s stories, all the tricks and guidance that helped me. It’s honest, it’s optimistic, it might even make you laugh!”
What to do when your children leave the nest? Amanda Paradine is the head coach for Another Door, her daughters are leaving home to go to University. Life changes encompass more than just work. In this episode some practical advice and some shared wisdom and just how to plan for the day that your children have left and how you can reinvent your life as a parent. Another Door: Find out about Enrolment onto the Five Steps to Thrive an online course: an email prompt once a day for 5 weeks, and 32 modules encouraging you from shock to thriving: https://www.anotherdoor.co.uk More about Amanda Paradine: https://www.amandaparadine.com
Keith Fraser is the founder and pioneer of Cojones, the cheeky yet profound code for living successfully and authentically. In this episode, Keith Fraser and I discuss how having courage to speak your truth, embracing your authenticity, and living unapologetically can create a life of success. Central to Keith’s No. 1 Bestseller book Cojones: Grow a Pair For Success!, is the notion that we must wholly embrace our lives for it is ours alone to live. We needn’t spend time worrying what other people think or how they may judge us; rather, we should endeavour to live life with a fearless freedom. To grow a pair is to: “be fearless, be bold enough to stand out, and be audacious enough to grasp whatever it is YOU decide YOU want” (Keith Fraser).
Keith Fraser is the founder and pioneer of Cojones, the cheeky yet profound code for living successfully and authentically. He is also a Master Practitioner of NLP and an exponent of Transactional Analysis (TA) furthering his deep understanding of the art of persuasion and what makes people tick. Keith has a wealth of experience in business, sales, and property investing, as well as entertaining and inspiring audiences internationally with his mix of straight-talking theories and hilarious anecdotes. Keith is the host of Cojones TV and has interviewed Arsene Wenger, Ross Kemp, Sarah Willingham and Alastair Campbell amongst others.
Live Authentically, Fearlessly, and Unapologetically
Keith Fraser is a man who refuses to tread on eggshells or fall into line – nor should you.
Pragmatic, straight-talking, forthright and real, this book provides a set of fresh ideas that are immediately applicable and ready to use. Keith’s pioneering Cojones Code is the stand-out blueprint to live by for genuine authenticity and success. Applying a unique mix of psychology including Transactional Analysis and NLP alongside his very own Cojones Ten Commandments.
This book will inspire you to:
– Be fearless
– Be bold enough to stand out
– Be audacious enough to grasp whatever it is YOU decide YOU want
After reading this, you will embrace the fact that your life is indeed yours and no one else’s to dictate how you live it.
Heed this book’s message, and you will GROW A PAIR!!
Dave Stevens is a husband, father, son, novelist, songwriter-for-hire, and corporate storyteller. He has a background in journalism, project management and psychology, and is passionate about creativity as a human lifeforce. Dave is curious about most things and is currently learning the piano. He dreams that one day creativity becomes an important world currency. In this episode, Dave and I discuss a variety of topics relating to creativity and the creative process. Creativity is traditionally thought of a characteristic trait that one either has or does not have. However, ultimately everyone has the capacity to bring creativity into their lives and to harness its power of creation. While technical skills are often correlated with creative design and artistic expression, these skills are not a necessary requirement of creativity. Moreover, to be creative does not require one to also meet a list of success criteria. To embrace creativity is to embrace life – in its multitude of manifestations. Whether in art, business, gardening, writing, or any other endeavour, it is possible to find the space and opportunity to be creative. Our creativity is only limited by our minds – by our judgements of ourselves and of others. In the end, being creative means going beyond the limits of the mind and allowing life to flow through us. We needn’t concern ourselves with what others think of our endeavours, nor with how we may judge ourselves; we need only allow ourselves the opportunity to embrace life, to feel joy, and, ultimately, to the freedom to create.
Dave Stevens is a husband, father, son, novelist, songwriter-for-hire, and corporate storyteller. He has a background in journalism, project management and psychology, and is passionate about creativity as a human lifeforce. Dave is curious about most things and is currently learning the piano. He dreams that one day creativity becomes an important world currency.
Bill Tibbo is the president & CEO of Bill Tibbo & Associates. he is a clinical social worker, Corporate Clinical Consultant and Disaster Management Specialist. In this episode, Bill Tibbo and I discuss how people navigate change in their lives – both small and big. Major crises happen to everyone and dealing with the aftermath can be daunting. Everyone deals with crisis differently; however, through crisis comes transformation. Our true strength as human beings (both personally and communally) emerges during a time of crisis. Through empathy and love it is possible to find a silver lining. In this episode we discuss some of Bill’s work with individuals and organizations during the 9/11 attacks in NYC, the SARS epidemic, and the 1999 earthquake in Istanbul. Finally, we go into the current COVID crises and how people can come together, despite differences in belief and opinion, to do what is necessary to prevail together in the face of adversity.
Bill Tibbo is the President & CEO of Bill Tibbo & Associates
➤ Throughout the past 30 years Bill, President and CEO of Bill Tibbo & Associates, has provided consulting services to hundreds of business leaders in many of North America’s Fortune 500 corporations, as well as a complete spectrum of public sector organizations.
➤ As a Corporate Clinical Consultant and Disaster Management Specialist, Bill has had the honour of leading Post Disaster Debriefing teams after the following events:
➾1999; earthquake in Istanbul, Turkey
➾September 11, 2001; World Trade Centre attack in New York City,
➾2003; SARS Epidemic…serviced epicenter at North York General Hospital
➾2004; Hurricane Ivan in the Cayman Islands
➾2005; Air France Crash, Pearson International Airport, Toronto
➾2014: RCMP Shootings In Moncton New Brunswick
➾2016: Fort McMurray Alberta Forest Fires
➤ Best Selling Author of Leadership in the Eye of the Storm Released November 2016.
➤ Today Bill continues to consult regularly with international business leaders, insurance companies, entrepreneurs, professional athletes and government groups, including the United Nations, as they endeavor to stabilize their organizations both before and after crisis situations.
➤ He and his team serve as the Primary Clinical Consultants to the OPP, Hamilton Police Service, Halton Police Service and Peel Police Service as well as all of the Air Traffic Team for NAV CANADA.
➤ Bill is a cofounder of Camp FACES, a summer camp for Family and Children of Emergency Service Workers.
➤ Finally, Bill Tibbo & Associates work closely with Canada’s Aboriginal communities as it pertains to the Indian Residential Schools and designed and led the Health Team for the First National Truth and Reconciliation Event in Winnipeg.